Wednesday, September 22, 2010

The Breakast Club











The Breakfast Club takes place at an Illinois high school, where five dissimilar students are sentenced to spend a Saturday detention session together. In attendance is a "princess" (Ringwald), an "athlete" (Estevez), a "brain" (Hall), a "criminal" (Nelson), and a "basket case" (Sheedy). These titles identify the roles the students play during the school week. Because of stereotypes and status levels associated with each role, the students want nothing to do with each other at the outset of the session. However, when confronted by the authoritarian detention teacher (Gleason) and by eight hours of time to kill, the students begin to interact. Through self-disclosure they learn that they are more similar than different. Each wrestles with self-acceptance; each longs for parental approval; each fights against peer pressure. They break through the role barriers and gain greater understanding and acceptance of each other and of themselves. They ultimately develop a group identity and dub themselves, "The Breakfast Club."





1. Discuss the group's developmental stages.



The developmental stages of forming, storming, norming, and performing can be seen in the movie. The group is formed because each student has broken the school rules; they are together because they are all serving detention (except for Allison, who at day's end admits she is there because she had nothing better to do). During the storming stage, both types of social tension are exhibited. Primary tension can be seen in Claire's statement that she doesn't "belong here." It is also evident when Brian gives up his seat to Bender and in Allison's nail biting. Examples of secondary tension include Bender's antagonistic exchanges with Claire, the shouting matches between Bender and Andrew, and Allison's strange outburst during Claire's disclosure about her parents.



Mr. Vernon attempts to set explicit norms by stating that there is to be no talking, no moving, and no monkey business. However, this attempt to establish norms is unsuccessful because the norms are not accepted by the group. Implicit norms develop in the group, such as yelling, questioning, disrespect for authority, and, most notably, self-disclosure. Many of these norms are initiated by Bender, which points to his power, status, and leadership in the group.



Regarding performing, the group ultimately accomplishes its explicit task--writing a detention essay--by assigning it to Brian. The group also has a number of less-explicit goals that it achieves. The most obvious is that they successfully kill eight hours of detention with a minimum of boredom. They perform many of the functions of an encounter group, learning about themselves and each other through intimate self-disclosures. They also band together in a variety of rebellious acts, from roaming the halls to smoking pot. All of these acts suggest a level of "groupness" that develops in a few short hours.



2. What factors contribute to the group's cohesiveness?



The first factor leading to the group's cohesiveness is the amount of time and interaction they have with each other. While time alone does not insure the development of cohesiveness, the group has nothing else to do and plenty of opportunity to talk. After weathering some primary and secondary tension, the group starts to congeal when it identifies a mutual enemy: Mr. Vernon. An early indicator of group identity emerges in Bender's use of "we" as he asks, "Why don't we close that door? We can't have any party with Vernon checking us out." They begin to perform as a group after Bender removes the screw from the door leading to Vernon's office. The other students cover for him when Vernon comes back asking, "How did that door get shut?"



Cohesion is further developed through self-disclosure. Bender gets Claire to self-disclose about her feelings toward her parents. Andrew then turns and asks Bender to tell about his parents. This discussion is critical to the development of cohesion because the group members begin to see the similarity of their struggles and they identify with each other. Later, the group pressures Claire to confess her virginity. An embarrassed Claire calls Allison "bizarre" for lying to force the confession. Andrew replies, "We are all pretty bizarre. Some of us are better at hiding it, that's all." This marks another point of similarity: they all protect their self-concepts by putting on faces in line with the expectations that others have for them. Andrew describes his struggle to live up to his father's athletic expectations and Bender tells of his father's abuse. Thus, two very different characters find common ground, typified by Bender's comment to Andrew: "I think my dad and your dad ought to get together and go bowling."



As they band together to fight against mutual enemies--parents, peer pressure, authority figures, stereotypes, boredom--the Breakfast Club develops into a highly cohesive group.

QUESTIONS!

What stages do you predict your group will go through? How do you see your group developing group-cohesiveness? Do you think self-disclosure will help your group bond? What about the class as a whole?

RESPONSE REQUIRED!

Disclosure is important in team building. Disclose 5 things about yourself that you feel are important about you to your group members. It does not have to be something confidential, just something unique and special about you!

38 comments:

  1. 5 things about me....

    1. I love fall.Fall colors are the best!
    2. My children are everything to me.
    3. I love to decorate my house and I am pretty good at it.
    4. I am very motivated and hard working.
    5. I am a great listener.

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  2. Josh Kellner-

    I believe we will go through all the steps that the "Breakfast Club" kids went through. We already broke the ice by meeting everyone when we did the "speed dating" exercise. From this we were formed by teacher's choice. At this point in the group we are at the storming stage. We may seem like we all like each other and nothing will go wrong, but to be honest we don't really know each other at all. So far all we have said to each other is the stuff we felt comfortable to say to everyone in the class. I think with time we will blend into the norming stage. We will find out even if we are very different in our life aspects, underneath we all have similarities whether we want to admit them or not. And as we get comfortable with each other we will be able to perform the task at hand.

    As far as group-cohesiveness goes I believe the biggest contributor to have a close group is one factor: time. Notice I say this is the biggest not the only contributor. I think we all have picked Scholastica for a reason and that is our mutual factor we have. We may not all have wanted this class, but we are in it now and have to make the best of it. Most people seem to be very open about meeting people and getting to know people because being a freshman in college at a new place we really have no other choice. For self-disclosure part I think this is one of the positive factors to being smaller groups. After awhile we will feel comfortable saying things to people within out group because of the amount of time we will be spending with them. I will admit there is things I will not say to the whole class, but if it comes down to it and I need help or I feel secure enough I would gladly tell my group. It's almost like Monica pre-plans our fate. She wants us to reach a point where we open up and feel more comfortable within a group just as the kids in the movie did. As a class I think that also takes time. I see our individual groups getting closer at first then when we are comfortable with them we will branch out to other people in the class.

    5 things about me:

    1. I am very skilled with pottery
    2. Family means the world to me
    3. I love having in depth conversations about just about anything (come talk to me!)
    4. I am a clean freak... thanks mom
    5. I am a good cook.. italian food is my thing

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  3. 5 things about me:

    1. Family is the number one thing in my life
    2. I love to be outdoors (hunting and fishing are amazing!)
    3. My friends consider me to be a very good secret keeper
    4. I am on only child
    5. I can guarantee I serve over 100,000 a day when I work back home (YAY Tobies!!)

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  4. I also agree that we will go through the same stages as the "Breakfast Club" people went through. We all were put into groups and met eachother (forming), and some of us may have went through the storming stage because all of this is new to us and we probably all had a little tension. But soon enoough we will all get to know each other and be able to work effectively as a group and learn each others strengths and weaknesses.
    Group-cohesiveness. . . We all are put together with people we don't know and I believe it's about learning and accepting the people of your group. Once that happens, you won't feel out of your comfort zone because you'll be with people who you want to be with.
    I think that self-disclosure will help us to open up to our group because we will have things to discuss in class and our true feelings will be expressed.

    5 things. . .

    1.I love to wakeboard, snowboard, swim, canoe, anything active!
    2. Track is my thing, i went to state 3 times in high school
    3.I'm not as shy as i look once you get to know me.
    4.I love my family and friends more than anything.
    5.I hate to be alone, so feel free to talk to me!

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  5. It's seems inevitable that our group wouldn't go through all four stages. From personal experience, every group I've ever been apart of has gone through each stage. We were technically formed in a random order just like the "Breakfast Club". We all chose this class but we didn't form our groups by our own choice. Though we know general facts about most of our groupmates we still don't know everything, and most likely never will. It is very likely though that there will be many opportunities for group disclosure. It's apart of human nature to disclose certain information especially when trying to form a connection or relationship. It doesn't necessarily have to be verbal disclosure either, it could be the way they function in the group or the amount of effort they put into activities. In order for there to be group-cohesiveness there needs to be some amount of disclosure. Everyone in our group seems like sociable people whether they believe it or not. I personally think communicating effectively within our group shouldn't be a problem at all. Even with ups and downs we all see seem like good listeners and will understand if someone has a different idea or just isn't agreeing with how were functioning. As a group I'm not necessarily worrried and I can say I feel the same for the other groups as well, or atleast the way we will interact with each others' groups. As a class we all seem fairly similar and even the smallest similarities create a bond.

    5 things...
    1. I've asked for a pet horse for my birthday and Christmas for as long as I can remember.
    2. I love wakeboarding, it's one of the only times I truely feel free.
    3. I've lived in the same town my entire life.
    4. I've been to Peru.
    5. I say I hate winter, but winter but I always love waking up after a big snow storm to see the snow weighing down the pines trees. It's perfect.

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  6. We will go through the stages the Breakfast Club went through. Josh made a good point with his process of speed dating into teacher's choice grouping, and not knowing anything beyond the surface of the other in our group. Now we will be getting into the next step of knowing eachother on a deeper level through the group activities we will performing for class throughout the year.
    I can bring up a situation where in sports as a team we built a special bond. For hockey in high school our team was a combination of three high schools. thus, many of us first met in hockey and from hockey we have built special bonds with teammates that will now last for the rest of our lives. A better example for me would be our baseball team. The 8 seniors on our team had played together for 5+ years and by our senior year we could almost predict what eachother were thinking so there were no surprises when it came to the awkward moments. we knew when a throw was coming, we knew the tail on the ball, we knew the velocity of the ball, and we could sense a bad or good throw coming.
    Back to the questioning though. My group will have rough times when we don't agree, we will have times when things go better than planned. I mean nothing comes easy and that's just life so in order to get anthing to work, individual or group, it takes times and hard work.

    5 thigs;
    1. I love winter and hockey however my favorite place to be is Georgia.
    2. My cabin is my getaway place to relax and be free.
    3. I love to drive and sometimes I get a little too crazy.
    4. Even though I get many short jokes, Im glad I am short because I can still do everything tall people can(just need a boost) but they cant do everything I can.
    5. I analyze every thing no matter how serious, sarcastic, little, big, etc. it may be.

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  7. So far we have been given the chance to get to know each other and decide who we want to work with. Through this process we made judgements of other and with little info decide whether or not we want to work with them. This is already one key factor to the development of our group. We are place in a group which we ourselve picked for we have some common similarities and interest as our group member. Therefore, in a way just like the breakfast club, our group is made up of our similarities and our judgement of other. In relating to my group, i predict that it might take a while for us to get closely connected due to that we haven't really known each other and is still not yet ready to show our true self to each other. Just like the kids in Breakfast club they all had some background and info in which they want to keep hidden from other, but once they realize they're not much difference in all of them and then they learn to work together. I believe our group will do fine when it comes to getting together and getting things done. For self-disclosure i think it'll be a great way of our group being more closely bonded. Once we understand and care for one another we can become a better group. For the classroom in whole, im sure we all can come together and make things works.

    5 things about me

    1) Im the middle child out of 7 kids
    2) Favorite sport is Tennis and just love being in the outdoor
    3) Spring is my favorite season; not too hot and not too cold.
    4) I'm really creative when it comes to decoration!
    5) I like to sing!

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  8. As everyone has said thus far, I do believe each group will go through these stages. The only way it wouldn’t happen would be if we all refused to interact, but I highly doubt that since it’s not a common occurrence. We’ve already formed; we have a common purpose & that is to do well in this class. Some of us have some other motives, but that aspect is all-encompassing. We have yet to really connect (become cohesive) since we have yet to spend more time together. There hasn’t been enough bonding either. When it comes to storming, I have a feeling we won’t have too many problems. Differences of opinion or misunderstandings may contribute to this stage, but we’ll have to see how well we can work together. Norms will settle in later, as we spend more together. Lastly, we WILL perform since we have duties to fulfill. I think we’ll perform along the way, as all the other aspects are developing.
    As for developing group-cohesiveness, in my opinion we will come together as we work together (perform). Self-disclosure will also play a huge part in this, even though it seems that we’re all quite different. Perhaps we’ll find out we’re more similar than we think. Only through self-disclosure will there develop trust (aside from being reliable with our assignments). As a whole, I think the class will bond after each group bonds. I also think that it will happen more during the second semester, when we all have to work together to put together the Disability Awareness Event. Hopefully it will take less time since we’ll already (hopefully) have fairly cohesive groups.

    Five facts about me:
    1. I am always honest, even if it means testifying against myself, because truthfulness is something I believe is most important.
    2. I really cherish nature.
    3. Writing is my favorite form of expression, but I also really like mathematics.
    4. Listening to people is something I'm fond of.
    5. I ponder a lot.

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  9. Our group will go through similar stages I think but just not the extreme of the TV show. The awkward beginning stage is still happening I believe but will not last that much longer. The coming together as a group will come in time. We are all good people in our group. Self disclosure in our group will help our group bond like it does in every other group in my mind. Class as a whole is starting to already bond very well, self disclosure in class will happen more and more as the class continues.

    1. Is hockey,i play and love playing.
    2.Track and Baseball i also love, i have played both of them my whole life
    3.Sports on tv is another thing i enjoy. I will watch any sport.
    4.Family is very important to me i love them and miss them very mutch up here.
    5. My grandparents house. It is my favorite place on earth i grew up there and love going there.

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  10. I believe that my Dignitas group will go through all of the stages mentioned in this reading that those members of the breakfast club members went through. I do, however, hope to only undergo a little bit of storming. The stage of forming began with our fun activity of “speed dating” and ended with being put into our certain groups based on some sort of technique by our teacher. Our groups were formed as a means of learning to work with others and communicate effectively. I believe that storming, or as I like to say tension, is something that is completely natural. Being put into an unfamiliar group with the expectance to share personal things or even just opinions on intense matters can be quite difficult. At first, and maybe even the first few meetings, we will feel tense and out of place and maybe even defensive. There is no need to fret because norming will come next. This is when we will establish expectations and common understandings among the group. After all of these stages have been touched and we have become more comfortable and feel as though we know each other, we will be able to perform as a group effectively and successfully.
    Like stated in the reading, I believe our group cohesiveness will come with time spent together. This does not necessarily mean in the classroom. If we were to step outside of our homework and simply spend time together, I believe this task will be met much sooner. We will began to back each other up in our arguments and you could even say “have one another’s backs.” I feel the most direct route to cohesiveness is self-disclosure. Though it may be challenging at first, it is when we know personal things about each other and are able to relate to one another that we will feel most connected. I think that the class as a whole will also go through all of these stages and require the same communication and self-disclosure. It will just take more time. The bigger the group, the less personal the meetings become. That being said, with more and more time together, our connection and cohesiveness as a class will indeed come about.
    5 Things About Me…
    1) I talk in my sleep… ask Krista.
    2) I have a ten week old niece who I am crazy about.
    3) I am definitely a dog person, no offence cat lovers!
    4) I love making new friends and meeting new people.
    5) I love snow activities; sledding, making snowmen, skating, and hot chocolate!

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  11. As everyone else said, i think our group will go through all the stages. As of right now we are still in the aqward stage of getting to know each other, getting eachothers names, and getting a feel on how each individual communicates with each other. I think our group will gain cohesiveness as we start to talk about what things we want to accomplish and what groups we want to see or things we want to go out to do. It will just take a short time to get the feel for everyone and what we are all about. As for the class, i think we are all starting to come around. People are starting to open up a little more about what they want to say and it's just a matter of time before we cant get people to shut up. haha

    5 things about me:
    1.) Family means absolutely everything to me. They come before everything.
    2.)I would probably go crazy without sports. I love all of them but mainly Football, baseball, and hockey
    3.) I love the outdoors. Hunting, fishing, or even walking in the woods during fall is so relaxing
    4.)I love helping people, there isnt anything better then seeing the smile on someones face.
    5.) I have a cat named Fluffy (and its a guy)

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  12. Response to Mary:

    "Only through self-disclosure will there develop trust"

    I couldn't agree with this statement more. I think trust is a huge factor in working together effectively. It can be scary to share personal things about yourself to a group or even just one person. We need to ensure that there is an understanding of trust, that every opinion will be respected and if something is to be kept within the group, we must honor that decision. If we were to dishonor that, we would lose trust and in turn possibly lose the effectiveness of our group working as a team.

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  13. I believe that the stages those kids went through, everyone has been through them in their life in a way. I remember when we did speed dating, and what Monica said "Breaking the ice" it sure broke allot of ice between everyone and we all enjoyed it.

    I thought cohesiveness will take place in our group because we don't really know each other and once we start hanging out with each other things will change. I believe once we get to know each other and accept things it will go faster and everyone will have a good time.

    5 unique about me...
    1.) I love and adore my family.
    2.)I have a passion to help people.
    3.) I'm in love with the game of basketball.
    4.) Northern Minnesota is where I want to live and start my career.
    5.) I'm very happy and outgoing person.

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  14. I predict that my group will go through all of the stages. My group right now is at a good stage. We all get along very well. I think our group will be very productive. I think through all of the group meetings and discussions we will have in class will help our group-cohesivness. Yes i think self-disclosure will help our group because we will get to know each other more. I think that everyone should be open minded and respectful to everyone in their group. Everybody deserves to have the respect for their own beliefs.

    5 things about me...
    1) I am pretty out going and i love to have fun!
    2) I have the bestest friend anyone could ask for...she's my roommate and she talks in her sleep.
    3) I am Italian and i love italian food.
    4) I am the most competitive person i know
    5) My family means everything to me.

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  15. krista-
    I agree that everyone deserves to have respect for their own beliefs. Everyone is so different from the rest of their group in different ways and we all just need to accept one another and respect them and their opinions.

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  16. Michelle-
    "If we were to step outside of our homework and simply spend time together, I believe this task will be met much sooner."

    I believe this is exactly what it all comes down to. Even though we're together in class and have already started getting to know each other, there's only so much people will disclose in a setting like that. We only have a little less than two hours in there and most of the time is spent working on something, so to be able to step away from the class and spend a little time together would build our group unity exponentially.

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  17. I believe our group will go through all stages starting from forming and ending with performing. We all formed together when we chose Scholastica for our college career, decided on this dignitas class, and then somewhat chose our group. We didn't know who we were going to meet or who we'd form friendships with, but a forceful form will allow us to bond and discover, not only ourselves, but others too. The storming stage is the awkward stage because we pretend we are comfortable and relaxed with each other. We act like nothing will go wrong and we all like each other, but in reality we know nothing about each other besides the few things we felt comfortable enough to share. We do not open up and spill our guts out since we all have a "face" on making us look appealing and not an "out-cast." But in time, we'll open up and discover who we all are truly. Then we'll share deeper similiarities besides just sports or hobbies establishing the norming stage. With us knowing each other, we'll accomplish the task at hand and succeed to our best abilities.

    Our group's cohesiveness will grow based on one huge contributor: time. We will be together once a week for an hour and fourty minutes. During that time, we will be forced to talk to each other causing comfortable surroundings and eventually, we'll no longer be individuals, but instead a group. Self-disclosure will be more possible in our small groups because majority of people will refuse to open up in a large group right away, so the small group factor will do the trick. Eventually in time, people will begin to move outside of their small groups and our whole class will become just a group of friends spending time together every tuesday.

    5 things about me:
    1. I absolutely love sports.
    2. I am very organized and cannot stand a mess.
    3. Very helpful. I will go out of my way to help out a friend and even a stranger.
    4. Not a material kind of gal.
    5. Love chilling back with friends.

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  18. To Kayla:

    "I believe that the stages those kids went through, everyone has been through them in their life in a way."

    I agree with that 100% because kids have to go through this when they first go to school, join a sport, or any other group including clubs or church youth groups. It becomes a natural routine for everyone that no one realizes it when it's in process. Yet, it is not only for kids, it happens with adults also. Company meetings, co-workers, new jobs, etc force adults to also work through the same process.

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  19. I totally agree with what everyone has been saying, because I also feel our groups will go through all the stages throughout the semester. Whenever you go to college your going to meet new people and have to get to know their certain personatilites. I like my group and I feel we will grow a lot throughtout the semester as we go thru the stages. Self-disclsoure is going to be a key factor in our group wanting to blend and flow because we have to have trust in our group and we have to get to know each other a lot more so we will work well together. If everyone comes to class with open mind to want to learn and do good things together our gorup will gain cohesiveness. I think as a class we will blend too, if everyone respects everyone elses beliefs. But if there is someone who doesn’t like another persons opionon then that could cause problems. But everyone in our class seem pretty cool and very open minded.
    5 things about me
    1- I have a twin brother
    2- I love helping people out, and whatever they need
    3- I love to have fun and laugh
    4- I love to compete and hate losing ha
    5- Im not a shy person at all and love to meet new people

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  20. Commenting on Meghan M

    I agree with your comment stating how time will be a big contribution to your group cohesiveness. The more time we spend with one another the more bonded we'll become. I made a similar comment stating how my group for now may be not as talkative to one another but the longer we hang out and share our ideas we'll become more connected and more open.

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  21. No matter what type of people are put into a group together, I believe that every group will go through the same stages that the breakfast club did. Now what I would consider the storming phase is when first off there is always that awkward introduction phase where we are getting to know one another and still kind of secretly judging one another. As for the norming stage, I believe it is when the people start to realize that they will be able to work with one another. That is the stage that our class groups are in now because everyone is working together to move forward in our group work. Finally for the performing stage is our class’s ultimate goal in our group work because it is the point where we are able to comfortably work together and work toward a common goal. So I believe that our groups will go through all the stages of group development. I see my group working very well together and our differences will only benefit our group. As for self-disclosure helping out our group, I believe that it would only help to a certain extent. The reason I say that is because I don’t believe that we need to know every little detail of everyone’s life to make our group function well together.
    Five things about myself:
    1. I love to swim
    2. I work very well under stressful situations
    3. I am a hard worker and at sometimes a perfectionist
    4. Learning about medicine motives me
    5. Family is the world to me

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  22. Meghan-

    I agree with the statement that the storming stage is the most difficult stage. We really are forced to meet people and basically put on a "happy" face. We all know underneath we have our insecurities and with time people will open up and share some of them.

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  23. To quote Jake T:
    "If everyone comes to class with open mind to want to learn and do good things together our group will gain cohesiveness. I think as a class we will blend too, if everyone respects everyone elses beliefs."
    Open-mindedness is extremely important in the development of group cohesiveness. If no one respects one another, the group cannot function due to the differences it faces. Personally I've faced this many times & thought it was pretty ridiculous. Although we are all unique with our own ideas, beliefs, & values, we must learn to accept (or at the very least tolerate) these differences & even embrace them to truly blend.

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  24. I believe that my group will go through all of the stages just because we don’t know each other on that personal level and we have to take the necessary steps in order to get where we feel comfortable around our own group members if we want to have a successful and fun group. I think we will develop group-cohesiveness very well and it should not take much time just because I find that we all have things in common and we seem that we will connect well as a group and accomplish many things. Self-disclosure could help our group bond as a whole, if a person tells a story someone else could probably relate to it and that would just make us that much closer as a group. As for the class, we need to take each day at a time and get to know each other more on a personal level, by doing that it will help us all as a whole class to be able to open up to each other and by that happening I think the class discussions will become more lively and it will just make the class a lot more fun in general.


    I love doing new things.
    I love my fat cat, she is my baby!
    I hate being cold.
    Im a fan person, I sleep with the fan on all the time!
    My mother is my best friend.



    mcarlso8- I agree with what you said how there is always the awkward introducing stage where you are trying to get to know one another and that you still kinda do judge them. I do find that very true and when you first meet someone and are trying to get to know them sometimes it can be kinda awkward and you always don’t know what to say to kinda break the ice and since that applies you still are stuck with your first impression of judging them. But once you do get to know the person you do start to realize that maybe your first impression was wrong and maybe the both of you or the whole group is not good with the introducing stage because you all feel the same way and you don’t know how to break the ice.

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  25. I agree with Meghan M. when she stated “but a forceful form will allow us to bond and discover, not only ourselves, but others too.” I never really thought about it this way, but I am glad I read this because it is a good way to look at our groups. I thought only about the fact that we would be learning about other people. Now I see that, yes, we also can learn about ourselves and find out something we might not have known before.

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  26. I also believe that we will go through all the stages. The whole class got to know a little bit about each other through the “speed dating” that we did in the first couple days of class. Now that we are in our small groups, I think that we will become closer with those certain people because we need to learn how to work together and be functional. We all have different ideas and I believe we all need to learn to listen to one another and not always have to be the “star.” This will help the group be more productive as a whole and everyone will be happier.
    Since this class only meets once a week, we don’t have a lot of time together, but we can always try to get everybody from the group together outside of class to work on or discuss the projects. This allows the group to have my time together which also makes room for more interaction. If the group has self-disclosure I do believe that it will help the group bond more. Everyone will be able to relate to one another a little more if we know some back- round information about each other. We will be able to better understand where they are coming from for their decision. I think that since we are in little groups that some people will just stick to the people in their group and kind of forgot about the rest of the class. Otherwise I see some people being more open to other people in the class.
    5 things about me:
    1.I am very giggly once I get to know people
    2.I love to be active whether it be indoors or outdoors (basketball, running, fishing, being out on the farm)
    3.I absolutely love little kids
    4.My family is very important to me and I enjoy being with them
    5.All my stuff has to be in a certain spot otherwise I feel lost

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  27. I believe that our group an almost every group in the world will go through the developmental stages of forming, storming, norming, and performing. The nice thing about our groups in this class is that everyone is knew to this school and class. Therefore no one can really judge anyone on their past because we are just starting out getting to know each other. The group mates also don’t have to act like someone they are not, because there are no previous stereotypes. I think this will help everyones group become closer to each other and want to get to know each other better. Many people are still going to be a little shy at first or not as comfortable with everyone in the group, but the more time we spend together, the closer we will come. I also think when anyone opens up to new people we grow as a stronger individual as well as a good group. It is easier to work with other people if you know what they like, dislike, or about their history.
    As we have more classes and have class activities and discussions, we will grow as a class. I truly believe this class could bring a lot of different people together and create good friendships.

    5 things about me......

    1. I like being around people a lot!
    2. I am a good listener and advise giver.
    3. I’m in love with soccer.
    4. When I am stressed or frustrated I love going for a run and listening to music to calm down or relax.
    5. I am a really happy and optimistic person.

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  28. I really liked how JOSH said, "I believe the biggest contributor to have a close group is one factor: time. Notice I say this is the biggest not the only contributor. I think we all have picked Scholastica for a reason and that is our mutual factor we have." I think he put it well by saying time is the biggest contributor to have a close group, because once we start to be open with each other and get to talk more, we all know our groups will work really well with each other. It was also cool to think that we all did pick St. Scholastica out of all the schools in the world. Everyone did have their own reason why they picked here to go to school but all that matters is we are all here together now. That is just one similarity we have with each other.

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  29. lscharp - I like what you said about how we have to learn to adapt to each other and realize that we are not the star. We have to give everyone a chance to state what they think about the specific topic. Now don’t get me wrong that is good to have a leader in a group, but only to a certain extent. When a leader becomes to controlling, it is hard to get effective group work done because nobody will get to say what they want to say about the project and that is what makes it hard to work in a group. So if we all take a step back and give everyone a chance to do what they want to do and say what they want to say, our groups will be able to move mountains.

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  30. I think that we will all go through all of the stages that the kids in the breakfast club went through. We were all put into groups, pretty much randomly. We only had 2 minutes to decide if we wanted to be with that certain person or not. You could have said yes and end up not even working good with them! And were all pretty much new to each other. I think it's normal to go through these stages. Everything is new to us; this school, college, the people. everything. But it's all a part of growing to know each other and to trust each other. At first, everyone is kind of shy and trying to get to know one another. But as time goes on, I believe we will all get close. Not just in our little groups, but a class as a whole. This is for some reason the class that I feel the most comfortable in. I think self-disclosure will help our group. Many people can relate to you on so many different levels. Opening up always seems to help and to become closer and more comfortable with people. Because of all this, I think that we will all develop group-cohesiveness very well. We just need time to get to know one another and become closer.


    5 things about me:

    1. I am a twin. She is my best friend.
    2. I have oral allergy syndrome. aka I'm allergic to everything.
    3. I am deathly afraid of knives. I can't go near them.
    4. You will never meet anyone who is as bad as directions as I am. I've lived here my entire life and still don't know my way around town.
    5. I hate having socks or anything on my feet.

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  31. I agree with what Jake said.

    "Self-disclsoure is going to be a key factor in our group wanting to blend and flow because we have to have trust in our group and we have to get to know each other a lot more so we will work well together. If everyone comes to class with open mind to want to learn and do good things together our group will gain cohesiveness."

    If we all self-disclose, it will help our group to gain trust and be more comfortable with each other. The better we know one another the more comfortable we will be. I also agree that everyone should come to class with an open mind and be willing to learn. Putting negative people into the equation never seems to help. I don't feel like we will have that problem too often because everyone in our class seems cool and willing to work.

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  32. I predict the group I'm in will go through all these stages in some way, shape, or form. The thing is, the stages wont be so drastic because they don't need to be. My classmates and I weren't forced in a room for hours due to punishment, so we got to know each other a little differently. There is always the awkward first stage of getting a feel for one another. The whole class went through that whether it was initial part of the speed dating or just class discussion. Our creative spark and fun wont come out of being rebels, but from class projects such as the Ball this semester. My group started off with good group-cohesiveness. We all get along, so I don't think we'll have any major issues, we just need time to get to know each other better. I don't think self-disclosure will particularly help the class as a whole, but it wont hurt anything either. But because we are working in such close quarters with our groups, self-disclosure is necessary for confidence and trust.

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  33. Five Things About Me

    1.) I am probably the most forgetful person you will ever meet.

    2.) When I am comfortable, I like to laugh- a lot.

    3.) I have been sick for a good 5 weeks straight. I have hand sanatizer on me, so don't hesitate to ask for some.

    4.) I have a lazy eye when I look to my right. So if you're sitting to my right and I look at you for something and I squint, I'm not giving you a "dirty look".

    5.) Spiders are terrible, as are needles. Come near me with any of those, and we may have problems. :P

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  34. I cant find my earlier post so it must not have saved.
    I think our groups will go through the stages just like in the movie, we will be aprehensive at first to get to know each other but the more we spend time with each other the more comfortable we will become with each other and in turn become more productive. I think self-disclosure in our small groups will help us become more cohesive within our groups and help out in the whole class because people are more comfortable to speak out in the class if they have a group of friends that agreed with them and supported their ideas.

    1. I love downhill skiing
    2. I am an only child
    3. I play soccer
    4. I worked at my uncles resort this summer
    5. I like a good adrenaline rush

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  35. and for my comment on someone else's. I want to agree with Sher's comment to Meghan, I too agree that time is the key factor in becoming comfortable with our group members, like the students in the Breakfast Club, we may not be the best of friends but we all have certain things in common so there is definitely a basis to talk about and become comfortable but we just need that time together to really become a group.

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  36. I think that my group will go through a lot of the same stages that the Breakfast Club went through, but not all of them. It will take a while for everyone to feel comfortable with sharing with the group. Even though we all know someone who is very outgoing and already feels comfortable. For others it takes time, which I think that we will all get there. We were all put into groups that had people that weren’t the same, just like the Breakfast Club had a jock, nerd, an outcast, a preppy girl, and a quite girl. The time that they were there, they started to slowly figure out who everyone REALLY was and how they aren’t that different from each other. Same with our groups, the more we talk and open up to each other the closer we will become in the end. The closer we are, the more effective the group becomes. The same goes for the class, the more we feel comfortable and open up, the closer we all get, and then better discussions can happen.


    1.I would do anything for family and friends
    2.I love music/dancing for fun
    3.I’m not shy once you get to know me
    4.I’m actually pretty creative
    5.I love laughing!


    -- So on friday I sent this in, and it saved it. because I checked it and everything to make sure it was good, but when I came on to print it I couldn't find it..

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  37. I cant find my early response but this is to Kristin-

    I agree with you, because your right we only had 2 minutes to figure out who wanted to be in our group and in a way its kind of like judgement..

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  38. I thought what Meghan said about how we were already getting put in a group when we choose St. Scholastica, the dignitas class, and then these groups was a really cool way of thinking. I just never thought about it to that extent.

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