Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Blog #12: A Message from Ryan

The Season of Giving
In class we discussed how we as individuals can make a difference in the wake of something as undignified as Black Friday. Consumerism has been imbedded into our lives. As all of you saw in the video of Black Friday, people were pushing each other and grabbing merchandise. After the discussion, Monica put three piles of papers on the table at the front of the class. The majority of the class of the class came up and started grabbing them. It was not nearly as chaotic as the video we saw but students were reaching across each other and grabbing what they needed first. This is a good representation of how indoctrinated we are into the consumer system. It’s all about me. What can we do about this? Some class members waited until the crowd left to get their papers. How dignified! These are the kind of people we need. Lead by example and others will follow. After the discussion did anyone think to volunteer to hand out the papers? The season of giving has been centered wrongly around buying items to give. Yes, buying something for someone is giving but there are other things you can do that don’t involve consuming. Not everyone celebrates Christmas but how can we meet on a common ground with others of different beliefs? This was touched upon in class: volunteering. It doesn’t matter what you believe, coming together to help those in need is very dignified and is the spirit of giving. I’m not writing this to cause you to be defensive. I’m writing this to have you do some introspection. Think about the values you have been taught and think about the ways you can embrace the season of giving without actually purchasing anything. What will you do to make a difference, specifically, how will you go about your everyday life in order to live the difference?
   

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Blog #11: What Makes You Happy?





Before we begin this weeks blog, I would like to thank you for your honest and heartfelt discussion last week. Talking about sex is never easy. I appreciated your willingness to create a great discussion inside and outside of the classroom. I look forward to more of these discussions as we continue to grow together. Please know your comments and discussions are what make this class. You all have so much to bring and share. It is YOU that makes this class what it is. Lets keep it up and step it up even more!

Your partner in learning,
~M

Now this weeks blog....
HAPPY takes us on a journey from the swamps of Louisiana to the slums of Kolkata in search of what really makes people happy. Combining real life stories of people from around the world and powerful interviews with the leading scientists in happiness research, HAPPY explores the secrets behind our most valued emotion. What makes you happy? What do you THINK makes you happy but really causes more pain than anything? Provide us with you list of what makes you happy from class. 

What makes Monica happy:

My children's smiles and laughter
My family (wonderful partner, parents, children and friends)
Giving to others in any way I can
Teaching at CSS
The little things in life (first snow falls, sitting by the fire playing games with my family, coloring books, crafting, cooking, playing in the rain, playing "I" spy, making something all better for my children)
Having plenty of food, shelter, and safety



Please read:
http://www.sustainablescale.org/attractivesolutions/understandinghumanhappinessandwellbeing.aspx

Discuss how this article compliments the documentary. 



Friday, November 9, 2012

Blog #10: That Sex Thing




Yeserday all of the dignitas students and their instructors watched our first common experience event called, "That Sex Thing". Sex is never an easy topic especially in an auditorium with hundreds of people. However, sex is something that we need to talk about. Open communication about sex is very important. Effective communication is even more important. After reading below what consensual sex means. I would like you to comment on what role communication plays in safe, healthy, and consensual sex. I would like you to discuss something that you took from this event. Which dialogue impacted you the most. Do you think your peers took this event seriously? Finally, what more can be done to create an event that will be educational and informative to all.

Consensual sex is when both partners are freely and willingly agreeing, or consenting, to whatever sexual activity is occurring.
The issue of consent is very clear. Consent is an active process and a responsibility shared by both partners in any relationship. Consent cannot be given when an individual is intoxicated. Sex without consent is sexual assault/rape. You cannot assume that you have consent – you need to ask.

Make sure the sex you are having is consensual:
•Do not make assumptions about consent; lack of a “no” is not a “yes”
•Ask for consent – it communicates respect and generally sex is better if both partners can talk about what they like/don’t like
•Communicate clearly – talk about your sexual desires and limits
•Know that if someone is intoxicated they cannot legally consent to sex. Having sex with someone who is intoxicated is rape.
•Approach relationships as equal partners, openly communicating in an atmosphere of mutual respect and shared decision-making.

This applies to both males and females (straight, gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender). It is important that everyone be held accountable for unconsensual sex. Recongizing that anyone can be taken advantage of is very important. By doing this, the survivor will feel more able to seek help.